Plate full of Gray thought

So...where was I?
What a thought filled lunch it was!!
A plate full of thoughts swirling in this glass like mind like a whirlpool. Surfacing and resurfacing.
First of all, I'm listening to 'Am I Dreaming', Parikrama now and probably Imran is one of the best violin players of the world. Oh! And here we approach the climax of the song. Imran and his violin. I so badly want to learn the violin. What a way to soothe yourself. At the same time to charge yourself up as well. A musical instrument would always be a very good companion. A very good medium to express your moods. And to change them into better ones at the same time.
This friend of mine has rightly written to her sons and daughters to learn one as they grow up.
I'm again occupied by those 'What could've been' thoughts.
I came across this book yesterday, not the kind I'd go on to finish. Actually I like reading but am way too restless to keep holding a book and reduce my cone of sight to a minute fraction of the otherwise available undefined sphere of sight. Well well, so this book by John Gray, whether i read the whole book or not has taught me important thing - always read the preface. Because it was in the preface that i came across an invaluable lesson. The one that would keep your marriage superglued.
True love doesn't mean loving back unless and until your partner is happy and nice. You don't have to feel blamed and then argue or distance yourself once your partner is unhappy or upset. It is like being a fair weather friend to your partner. You have to be there at the hour of need though he/she might not directly ask for help. This telepathy should exist. Once understood, you simply have to sit beside and support in the required way. You just have to give your shoulder to lean on instead of letting silence fall between and create an ever expanding opaque shell. The shell explodes at a point of time and you know, silence is followed by a storm. It is unconditional love that keeps such storms at bay. Uncoditional love.
My hearty thanks to John Gray who has helped heal hundreds of relationships. So has his book 'Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus'. He gave me such a valuable lesson so early in life. Okay, maybe it is no more 'early'.